Queer Temple for GBTQ Men*

Queer Temple for GBTQ Men*

Shamanic Temple and Francis Chouler are thrilled to return with the a second round of Queer Mens* Temple. Our first temple in July was a rich and nourishing evening fostering safety as a group and building the conditions for intimacy and connection.

Temple is a place of ritual and reverence. In these evenings we create the ‘temple’ collectively with our intention to connect

wholeheartedly, honour our own boundaries and those of the group. Together we receive the nourishment that arises out of this care and authenticity.

The evening is facilitated by Amy, Francis and Ancois who guide the group through a series of solo and partner practices that build safety and trust, strengthen our capacity to tune into our needs moment to moment, and help us to practice giving and receiving simple (clothed or semi-clothed) touch where it feels safe, good and wanted. Think of it as a laboratory for intimacy.

Before you buy a ticket, read this

This is a consent-centred, safety-positive space. Everyone who attends is vetted before they arrive — no exceptions.

To begin, please complete our vetting form and book a short curiosity call with us. Your ticket is only valid once you have been confirmed through that process. If you purchase a ticket before receiving confirmation, it will not be valid, and you will be refunded minus transaction costs.

Start here:

VETTING FORM LINK: https://www.shamanictherapy.co.za/queer-temple-intake

CALL SCHEDULE: Whatsapp Ancois for further details on +27 71 603 6077

Details: 13 November 2026 | Fruition House, 388 Albert Road, Salt River, Cape Town

Arrival: 18:30

Start: 19:00 (Don't be late)

Closing circle: 22:00

Doors close: 23:00

WHAT YOU'LL GET FROM THIS EXPERIENCE

GBTQ men carry specific wounds, and meeting these with compassion and tenderness as a group, witnessing each other is powerful medicine. Many of us suppressed natural expressions of desire, not only sexual but simple affection, touch and intimacy out of fear for our safety. Hypersexuality and performance of our sexuality is a common response to those early years of suppression and to formative sexual experiences that didn’t always foreground safety and consent. As a consequence much of our erotic wiring is built on excitement around boundary crossing, elicit experience and longing for what we can’t have or will never get. Temple work offers gentle opportunities to unwind some of this patterning and foster a greater capacity for intimacy. When we are safe, we can relax, when we can relax we can experience greater pleasure, deeper intimacy and more love. 

Some men opened our last temple saying they don’t feel safe around other men. By the end, many felt they had experienced safety among men for the first time. This is powerful, necessary work.

WHAT THESE NIGHTS ARE

The night is structured into group conversation, solo practice, partner exercises and some time where you can choose your own practices.

Somatically: We begin with the body, using breath and movement to build a foundation of embodiment and awareness.

Relationally: We practice making contact with ourselves first, and then, if and when it feels right, with others. Consensual partnered exercises create the conditions for genuine meeting: free of agenda and open to being present with the other as they are.

Psychologically: We make space for whatever comes up. Being as we are in front of another can bring up psychological material, we work with this consciously, with facilitator one-on-one support if needed.

Shamanically: We connect with ourselves as part of the Great Mystery, and explore our connection with the living world that we are part of. There are no forced beliefs. Shamanism encourages deep remembering and connecting to your innate wisdom.

Our queer-centric approach facilitates an exploration into conscious sexuality not limited by heteronormative assumptions. Here we find a deeper connection to self and through that a greater capacity for intimacy with another.

WHAT WE WORK WITH

Inside the temple, practices are facilitated. We will explore:

• Cacao & Blue Lotus ceremony and opening circle, where we name what we're carrying and what we're curious about

• Breathwork: using the breath to move energy, open sensation, and access states the ordinary mind rarely reaches alone

• Somatic presence practices: learning to feel the body from the inside, rather than performing it for the outside

• Gentle self-contact as a practice of coming home to yourself

• Consensual partnered exercises: making contact with another person with full awareness, full consent, and no agenda

• Options to sit out: all practices are invitations only, you remain the author of your experience, and can choose to sit any of the exercises out.

• Open time - we end with some time to continue to explore contact and connection through a cuddle puddle, or choose time alone to integrate or bask in the afterglow or process some of your experience with one of the facilitators.

• Closing circle: we gently close the evening inviting a few words of your experience to be shared with the group.

  
  

The practices offered remain an invitation. You are always the author of your own experience, you remain the author of your experience, and can choose to sit any of the exercises out.

WHAT IS LEVEL 1?

This evening is a Level 1 space. That means:

It is designed to support people who are new to conscious-sexuality or shamanic temple work. You do not need prior experience of anything. You do not need a practice, a lineage, or a vocabulary for this. You need only a body, a willingness to be honest, and enough curiosity to walk through the door.

Level 1 also means the practices are introduced slowly, with full explanation and full choice at every step. Nothing escalates without the room being ready. The facilitators hold the pace, and the pace is yours.

Nudity is welcome and explored, but absolutely not expected. Sensuality and erotic energy may arise, or may not, either is welcome. Explicit sexuality is not the focus at any point. You will never be asked to do anything. You will be invited, and you will decide.

WHO THIS IS FOR

• Men and trans or non-binary people who feel drawn to the energy of this space

• Queer people who want to experience sacred sexuality in this rare container

• Those curious to expand their sexuality, intimacy and connection

• People new to temple or conscious-sexuality work

• Those carrying shame around their body, desire, or history, who are ready for some of that to soften

• People who have felt out of place in conscious-sexuality spaces built on heteronormative assumptions

• Those in any relationship structure: single, partnered, non-monogamous, chosen family

• Neurodivergent people. We do our best to improve access

• This is for you if you wish to tend the wounding around queerness and masculinity

WHO THIS IS NOT FOR

• People who are looking for a party or a hookup

• People who aren't ready to be vulnerable

• People who need to control what happens in a room

• People who do not identify as queer in any sense

• Those coming primarily to find sexual partners

• Anyone unwilling to engage with our vetting process

• Those in acute mental health crisis. We care about you, and this is not the right container right now. Feel free to contact Amy for individual support.

• Anyone uncomfortable with the possibility of nudity or sensuality in a ritual space, even as a witness

• Those with very active PTSD that feels overwhelming, or those who have recently experienced a severe stressor that may impede your capacity to safely manage yourself in a sexual space. You are welcome to reach out for specialised individual support to help you build capacity to safely be in spaces like this

  
  

Not sure? Reach out.

AM I QUEER?

If you are asking, you are probably welcome here.

Queer is not a fixed identity with a membership form. It is a word many people use to name their experience of being outside the dominant story — in their sexuality, their gender, their way of loving, or simply in how they move through the world. You do not need a label. You do not need to be out. You do not need certainty.

If something in you recognises this space and feels drawn to it, that recognition is enough. Send us a message if you want to talk it through.

Some Gay or Bi men do not identify as Queer, those men are welcome, hence our umbrella use of GBTQ

YOUR FACILITATORS

Amy Nelson

Shamanic Therapist holds a degree in counselling psychology, is the creator of SomatoSensual Therapy, and is a relationship coach and sexuality educator. Amy comes from a family lineage of healers and seers and is initiated in shamanism. Her work holds what most spaces keep separate: the psychological and the sacred, the erotic and the spiritual, the science of the nervous system and the wisdom of non-ordinary states. In the temple, she brings her full breadth of experience and depth.

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Francis Chouler Francis is a certified Sexological Bodyworker and Somatic Practitioner. Sexological Bodywork is a globally recognised touch and movement based modality that facilitates learning, healing and expansion in matters of intimacy, sexuality and embodiment. Francis brings the strong boundaries, sensitivity and expertise from this powerful lineage to the temple space.

Francis offers one-one one sessions for anyone wanting to deepening this work @aliveallover on instagram or francis@aliveness.co.za

Ancois Human-Nelson

Co-facilitator, space holder, and experiential DJ.

Ancois holds the experience of someone who has walked a path from fearfully withheld to bravely trusting and opening, despite every step feeling unbearably uncomfortable and unnatural. Her insight into the struggles of birthing her authentic self help to create space for those who feel like they're never "get it right". Ancois helps participants learn the power of their sacred resistance, and offers a grounded, safe, unshaming steadiness for moments when fears take hold.

ACCESSIBILITY

This space is neurodivergent-supportive. Any needs or considerations are welcomed during the intake conversation. Please note that the venue is regrettably not wheelchair accessible.

PRICING & PAYMENT

We keep seats open in every evening for people who cannot pay. If money is what's standing between you and this space, message us directly to join the waitlist. No explanation needed.

Early Bird   R550

Standard    R700

Abundant Heart. R1000   (your ticket + one gifted place for someone on the waitlist)

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HOW TO BOOK

We ask everyone to complete a short vetting form and join us for a brief call before purchasing a ticket. This is not an

obstacle — it is how we make the room safe for everyone in it, including you.

Step 1  Complete the vetting form: LINK:  https://www.shamanictherapy.co.za/queer-temple-intake

Step 2  Book your intake call. Message Ancois on: +27 71 603 6077

Step 3  Once approved by facilitator you can continue booking your ticket

Questions? Message us directly with your questions — +27 71 603 6077

Alcohol and substance free · Nudity-positive · Consent-centred · Beginner-friendly

FRUITION HOUSE: WHAT’S COMING UP

Fruition House is a space for embodied connection, conscious relating, community, creativity, ritual and exploration. Our programme moves across different practices and communities, from talks and workshops to dance, sound, drumming and queer gatherings.

October

15-26 Oct: YOGILAB Official Partnered Venue/Pod for the YogiLab Vipassana Meditation City Takeover

27Oct-1Nov:  Fruition House will be open as a space for integration after the Yogilab programme.

During the day: you’re welcome to come and meditate in the Gathering Space.

From 5pm: an evening offering each day, e.g breathwork, sound journey, as part of your integration. Details of times, booking and cost to follow.

Lineup:

28th AM:Table mountain Hike PM: Elemental sound journey with guest Chrisna van Niekerk

29th cacoa, hape and medicine music with guest Minjay (https://minjay.co.za/)

Between 30-1st (date to be confirmed): Micro cosmic breath work with sceletium tea leading into a sound journey with guest Gershan (https://elemental-journeys.co.za/)👌

November

Mon 2 Nov: Free / donation based Women’s Self Defence Workshop with Sindy Tu

Tue 3 Nov: Psychedelic Society SA Talks ONLINE ONLY: 

Future-proofing Humanity by Communicating with Nature, with Dr Saskia von Diest, founder of Ecofluency

Sat 7 Nov: Fruition: A Remembrance of Drumming & Dance, with guest facilitator Chrisna van Niekerk

https://www.fruitionhouse.co.za/event-details/fruition-a-remembrance-of-drumming-dance-1 Sun 8 Nov: The Connection Academy: Communication tools for social and play spaces.

Mon 9 Nov: Free / donation based Women’s Self Defence Workshop with Sindy Tu

Wed 11 Nov: Beyond Monogamy presents Cruising for Convos, a community gathering

https://www.fruitionhouse.co.za/event-details/beyond-monogamy-present-cruising-for-convos-2

Fri 13 Nov: Shamanic Temple presents Queer Men’s Temple, co-facilitated by Francis Chouler

https://www.fruitionhouse.co.za/event-details/queer-temple-for-gbtq-men

Sat 14 Nov: Fruition: Shamanic rewilding dance experience with guest Kā (Storm Willow Hartley) a South African artist based in Berlin.

Mon 16 Nov: Psychedelic Society SA Talks | Online & In-person | Coco & Tersius speak about traditional Bwiti initiations

(with iboga)

Sun 22 Nov: The Connection Academy: Relationship skills Sessions with Amy Nelson - Self regulation & co-regulation. DEEPEN with a Vedic astrology reading to understand your relationship and selves with Marjorie Lobel

Thurs 26 Nov: Fruition Next Chapter Friends Forty+ (An evening for people over 40 who’d like to meet others 

and create authentic connections. Come on your own, bring a friend or partner)

Sat 28 Nov: Men’s Masturbation Masterclass, hosted by Simon Heller & Francis Chouler at Fruition House

Sun 29 Nov: The Connection Academy: Relationship skills Sessions with Amy Nelson - Active Listening

Mon 30 Nov: Free Women’s Self Defence Workshop with Sindy Tu

December

 Tue 1 Dec: Fruition Talks: Hosted by Amy Nelson (guest to be announced)

Sun 6 Dec: The Connection Academy: Relationship skills Sessions with Amy Nelson - Working with Triggers

Thurs 10 Dec: Fruition Friends Night Twenties and Thirties (An evening for people aged 20 to late 30's 

who’d like to meet others and create authentic connections. Come on your own, bring a friend or partner.

Dates to be confirmed, Nov / Dec

• Queer Spirit: Women Connect, an evening of sharing, mingling and connection

• Queer Spirit: Women Connect and Sweatlodge, a two-part/day offering

• The Connection Academy: Relational Attunement for Couples, a talk on tools for talking about sex and desire,

  with a workshop with Amy Nelson

• The Connection Academy and Beyond Monogamy: Opening Up Your Relationship, a talk and practices

• Psychedelic Society SA Talks: The Many Faces of Mantis: Trickster Deity, Cosmic Gardener, World Creator,

  with Dr Saskia von Diest

Regularly at Fruition House, hosted by Amy and Ancois.

• Monthly: 

  Shamanic rewilding dance 

  Shamanic Drumming and dance Circle

  Sound Journeys

  Next Chapter (make friends over forty)

  Fruition Friends (make friends under forty)

  The Connection Academy (talks, workshops and events)

  Fruition Talks

  Fruition games night

  Beyond Monogamy gatherings

  Queer Spirit gatherings

  Psychedelic Society SA Talks and 

  workshops

• Quarterly: 

  Queer Temples (women’s, men’s and all expressions)

  Queer Women’s Heat ceremony (Sweat Lodge) & Temple

• Yearly: 

  Couples Temple

  Queer Spirit Women’s Retreat

Want to stay connected? Message 071 603 6077 for more information or to be added to the relevant 

Fruition House community groups and waitlists.